We are all products of our environment, once we start to understand the positives and negatives of how our environment effects us. We can start to make changes in ourselves, to bring success and harmony into our life’s.
I have written this blog, to help you to understand some, of the blocks that may have held you back in life.
We are all products of our environment , unless we are given the tools and opportunities to positively expand beyond the confines of our direct environment.
You see to function Positive, Happily and Harmoniously in life ( on all levels ) we need to as human beings ( especially as we are growing up ) to feel: Loved-wanted-needed-appreciated- cared for cherished and valued.
If there is a lacking of or disruption in any of those 7 positive pillars then it will most likely lead to that individual suffering a negative impact on their: Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Image and /or Self-Control ( Willpower) and sadly when there is disruption or negative impact on one or more of those 4 vitally important foundations of ” Self-Worth” then this can and often does regretfully lead to the individual felling: Negativity, Trapped, Worthless, Like a Failure, Angry, Resentful, Frightened, and even more depressing is the very real fact that when one or more of those 7 Negative Pillars is in place that it can often lead in one or more ways to the individual going into Self-Destruct Mode, and that combined with negative environmental factors can be the straw that breaks the camel back so to speak and can lead to a downward spiral which could include things as extreme as them turning to a life of: Crime, Self-Harming, Drugs, Alcoholism, Domestic Violence, Prostitution, Homelessness or even worse in extreme cases Suicide.
These are most always destructive behaviours and action that manifest themselves either as an extreme reaction to or negative result of the emotional impact of what has been going on in and /or lacking in their life’s. Often for example youngsters can get involved with a ” bad crowd” as this gives them a sense of belonging and despite the negative consequences of such “gang culture ” can help fulfill the gaps they may feel inwardly in those 7 positive pillars and those 4 vitally important foundations of “self-worth” which mentioned earlier. And once the downward spiral starts it can and often does lead to a lifetime of destruction which negatively impacts not just on the individual, but also their family, friends and even often many members of the community as a whole. ( in the instances of crime etc)
However there is a way we can help stop this happening
But the great news is that when an individual is helped to discover ways to expand their horizons, try new things, gain a sense of achievement , given a chance to grow as a person and starts to realize that there are better options available for them and that brighter future is a possibility for them then this can work wonders in helping them to positively impact and develop their: Self-Confidence, Self- Esteem, Positive Self-Worth and or Self-Control ( Willpower ). And when they grow in these areas, the 4 vitally important foundations they can then start to feel a sense of: Positivity, Personal Freedom, Positive Self-Worth, Success, Courage, Achievement, Happiness. And perhaps not surprisingly as a positive side effect of these beneficial changes they will finally be able to learn to love themselves and of course gain Self-Respect. This can lead to a whole new perspective and positive approach to life, can help the individual to gain a whole new positive support and positive social network and so ultimately can also lead them in the long term to a more Positive Environment and thus consequently help them to gain the 7 positive pillars in their life’s of positively feeling: Loved-Wanted- Needed-Appreciated-Cared For-Cherished-and Valued.
Now fortunately for the majority of people, a lacking in one or more of the positive pillars does not usually lead to such negative results as the few examples given earlier, however it is my experience that this is always without doubt or exception the ultimate under lying reason and cause that people develop Bad Habits, Addictions, and other personally Negative and also Self Destructive Behaviours. A lack or imbalance in one or more of the Seven Positive Pillars will always in some way lead to some kind of less than beneficial behaviour and/or thought patterns and thus it is true to say that a lacking or imbalance in one of these area’s starts to lead the person away from Pleasure and sets them on the road towards pain. Therefore it is also true to note that doing therapeutic work in order to enable the lacking or imbalances in those areas to be eliminated so that the person feels fully 100% Positive and Complete in the areas of : Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem, Self-Image and or Self-Control ( Willpower ) Will then ultimately mean that any previous lacking or imbalances in the following Seven Positive Pillars will set themselves right and thus the person to the perfect them: Loved_ Wanted-Needed- Appreciated-Cared For-Cherished and Valued.
In a nutshell it is my belief and experience that when you consider the above and put things right in those areas that everything else will fall positively and permanently into place for your clients.
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